A little insight on relationships

Men and Women are different people all around. Men want respect and admiration and women want love and security. Although these are the desires of our heart people constantly put themselves in positions that will only yield the opposite. Women who want to be loved try to attract a man with looks and acting like she is holding it all together. When she gets a man he is looking at her body and not her soul. Men want a women who will find him to be a success so he buys her things and makes her feel special. She loves it and thinks "this is love" only to be dissapointed when the flowers stop coming and the compliments dwindle away. I see so much pain in relationships that don't focus on the one who created them. Being in a relationship without Jesus is like trying to put together something without a manuel. There are so many screws, nails and pieces that you dont even know where to bein to pick up the pieces. When you try something it doesnt fit, and you might even try to force the project into completion only to look at it and realize that it is unstable and not how the picture is suppose to look. This is exactly how God sees relationships that dont bring glory to him. They might try but their attempts end up in dissapointment and frustration. You might even want to take the bed, or in this case your partner back and exchange it. This is where frustration leads to wondering eyes and infedelity. You have you realize its not the bed's fault, its that you dont care to follow any directions to make it secure and a successful project. I believe that a lot of couples throw around the word love too casually. Love is not a phrase its an action, its a lifestyle. It's saying i Love you and nobody else. I love you enough to be vulnerable, i love you enough to put my pride aside, i love you enough to care what you think more than anyone else, i love you enough to want to make this stable, i love you enough to follow the manuel. I will say that there are a lot of relationships who dont have Jesus and still work. I believe that they might be happy but when though times comes the only person who gives us hope is God, not humans. Having the drive means changes in actions. I by no means am a perfect human being. I have many flaws, too many that i want to start working on all at once, but i do realize that in my brokenness jesus came to die for me. In my sinful nature Jesus saw who i could become and chose me. I wish that relationships would realize the gift God gave us by giving us a partner. Someone in life to be bestfriends with. To say nice words to and to fight with him to have a wonderful future. There is a point when you relaize that something needs to be done and its at this point where you see the stregth in your partner. Do they fight? Do they cope in disrespectful ways? Or do they run to you, pray with you and be an example of someone you want to lead. I think as we date and head towards marriage more people need to realize that when you love unconditionally God will bring you back together. I believe in his power above all else.