Expectations

I've started to notice something as i grow older, we all have expectations. We set them for ourselves, for others and for our lives. These can be very good things giving us direction and cultivating a drive to succeed but they can also set us up for a lot of dissapointment. Im learning that these are not bad things if you are able to put them in perspective but when you set your sights on something and dont achieve it maybe your expectations need to be shifted to think of things slightly differently. Setting goals is more like what i would like to do. My expectations for moving to chicago, going to school, and getting a job have been dramatically different than what i envisioned in my head. I dreamed that coming here would be easy, i would find a job right away and i would adjust no problem. This hasn't been the case. My school situation feel through in a way i didn't expect, my job situations thankfully happened very part-time and i haven't made the great friends i expected. My relationship with my family is hard being long-distance and i found out that long distance relationships don't allow you to really get to know someone. All that said im working on shifting my focus on expectations and knowing that when they aren't met it's becasue you have usually set them on the wrong things.